Everyone has a story

I have a lot of time to think these days. Amid the diaper changing and the feedings I spoil myself sometimes and allow myself to have a moment of thought. 

Going through the loss of Averie has opened up my eyes a great deal. In the middle of my grief I felt very isolated. Consumed by my sadness, I felt like the world kept turning when my world had stopped.  When I went out in public a part of me wished I had a shirt on that read “my daughter just died”. I’m not sure I wanted validation or to not think I’m suffering in silence. Maybe an “I’m sorry” from a stranger would have made me feel better. Who knows.

Now having stepped out of the darkest clouds of grief, I’ve thought, what if we all wore shirts that had our troubles on them? How interesting would that make this world? Would people be kinder to one another or more judgemental? 

We walk around most of the time consumed by our own problems and troubles we fail to see that, most likely, everyone is going through something too. And although it may not seem as bad as what you are going through, it may be the worst thing that’s ever happened to them. And to them, it makes their world stop. 

I’m on a mission to hear everyone’s stories because everyone has one and it’s fascinating to me. We are all connected, all made up of the same stuff but for some reason find ourselves sometimes so divided. I would never wish the loss of a child on anyone just so they could feel what I’ve been through, as I’ll never truly know how it feels to go through what you have. But I want to try, I want to empathize with you, I want to hear your story. 

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  1. LJ

    January 14, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    Beautiful đź’™

  2. christine

    January 14, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    I wouldn’t wish a loss like this on anyone, but I do often wish that everyone could know what this feels like for just one day.

    1. Crystal S

      January 15, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Maybe the ones that say stupid snide comments like “you can just have another one” those people can experience how it feels for a good week or a month.

  3. sistersistersecrets

    January 16, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    I’m sorry, more than sorry, absolutely heartbroken for your loss. My surrogate babies mummy lost a baby at six weeks old and I can promise you she feels every bit of pain you’re in. I absolutely love the honesty that your blog brings, you write with such ease. Well done and thankyou for sharing your story. Tonight you gained a new follower and I hope to see many more posts from you x

    1. Crystal S

      January 16, 2017 at 4:41 pm

      Thank you so much for your sweet words and your follow! I’m so sorry for your surrogate babies mommy she most defiantly knows this pain and this journey. Maybe someday I can hear her story xx

      1. sistersistersecrets

        January 16, 2017 at 4:42 pm

        Im sure she will be a guest on my blog at some point in the near future. You are an incredible person. X

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