Living Through Our Loss

When I originally chose the title to my blog I knew that Averie’s death was never something we would ever get over or heal entirely from. I knew from the moment we lost her, our lives would continue on. Even despite the multiple occasions I had wished that they would have just stopped that moment with hers. We would live life through our pain, not around it.

July marks exactly 2 1/2 years from when we lost Averie. And if we are going to get technical, the 12th of July. I’ve been contemplating for awhile now where I feel like this blog is going. I’m reminded of why I chose this title and started my blog. To show, in it’s raw entirety, what life is like after you lose a child. ALL of it.

I’ve tried to stick with a certain feeling on my blog. I’ve tried to be honest. I’ve tried to honor my girl. I will, however, admit that a lot of topics haven’t been brought up because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, stir up emotions for someone, or make it seem in any way that Zach and I were “over” the loss of our baby girl.

Having said that I’ve realized that I can’t do that anymore. I always wanted it to be a place where someone could come and feel validated and comforted. A place that could be relatable. It is my hope it will ALWAYS be that place, but it also my hope it will be a place that realistically depicts our life as we live through the loss of our sweet girl. The good, as well as the bad. So many things have been added on top of our grief as life goes on, and I’m ready to show it all. It’s about to get more real up in here.

If you have been reading our story from the beginning, or you just started to follow us, I hope you’ll stick around. If you aren’t comfortable with where my posts may go I understand entirely and won’t take it personal. I’m not changing the fundamentals of why this blog was started, I’m just going to change my voice a little.

If you are reading this THANK YOU. Your support and love means more to us then you will ever even realize.


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  1. thelongtermproject

    June 29, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    I think that writing honestly from whatever point of view you happen to have at that moment takes a lot of courage.

    1. Crystal

      June 30, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      Thank you! I agree 100%!

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